Letter To A Pageant Girl

Letter To A Pageant Girl

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My darling Sofia,

I’m proud of you today. Your first BIG title! Ultimate Grand Supreme. You’ve always been supreme to me:)

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I had such a positive experience with pageants. When I was 7, I begged and begged and begged to do a pageant. It took me 2 years to wear my mom down. She never really understood “beauty” pageants; but she always believed in me.

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Soon, I found out how to borrow dresses from shops in exchange for advertising. I learned how to get company sponsorship for entry fees. Since my mom wasn’t fashion-y, (or rich) I even learned to sew a little bit.

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And after a few wins, scholarship money started coming in. (I think there were some pity votes…You should’ve seen some of my 80’s prom dress refashions!!)

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You’re going to think I’m crazy…but pageants prepared me for life.

Outfit of choice pageant wear

Pageants taught me how to lose gracefully, and win humbly. I learned that failures are just the path to success.

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I learned to walk with my back straight and sit like a lady. How to speak into a microphone. And how to interview.

Letter To A Pageant Girl

You’d be surprised how valuable it is to be comfortable at an interview. Knowing how to answer questions confidently, get your point across quickly, and speak effectively. And of course, how to recover if you mess up!

What Pageants Taught Me: Letter To A Pageant Girl

You know Sof, in my adult life; those skills have helped me get chosen for jobs, be promoted, get elected, fundraise, plan, build, and earn.

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What I really learned in pageants though, dear niece; is that the “prettiest” person doesn’t always win. Looks can only get you so far in life. The crown goes to the one who is the most determined to have it. The person who is willing to work the hardest. Anything worth having…it’s worth working for.

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Baby pageants; they really are silly. Right now you’re too little to get much out of it, except attention. And that’s okay with me. As long as you’re having fun, we don’t care. But if you’re still begging your mom to do pageants when you’re bigger, look out world! A pageant girl is a force to be reckoned with!

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Your biggest supporter,

Aunt Mamey


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Amy Mayen

Hello. I'm Amy and I'm addicted to sewing. I borderline-hoard fabric, buttons, & patterns. Sometimes I wish I could pile my fabric up on the floor and just roll in it!


  1. Rachel

    Congrats little girl! You are so right being comfortable in an interview is a huge life skill. Looks like she is having a great time!
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  2. MammaNene

    Such a sweet letter, to Sofia (congrats!!) and to a little girl from the past called Amy, isn’t it?

    I love when you write that “failures are just the path to success”: we all need to remember this, I often forget it and failures makes me feel like I’m not deserving to win… My mum was great in remembering me this (and she still is… consider that she doesn’t know anything about my blog and patternmaking adventure… because she would say: “Why are you doing this? You won’t go anywhere!”)
    You’re a wise girl, Amy, I already knew that but you confirm this to me, daily!

    Can I quote you one more time?
    “The crown goes to the one who is the most determined to have it. The person who is willing to work the hardest.”

    I’m going to write it in capital letters on my Sewing Room walls… Thanks Amy <3
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  3. Ajaire

    Amy I had no idea you did pageants! I totally agree that anything done at a high level teaches major life skills. Even just the basics like you mention of winning and losing. So many kids these days don’t experience the losing part which is such an important part of development. No one wants to see their child disappointed and I’ll did the first time bean loses something she desperately wants, but I do remember those times in my life and how I reacted to them made me more of who I am today than winning ever did. I love this little letter and congratulations Sophie!
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  4. Gina

    Congratulations Sofia!!! i already knew she was a winner and now everyone else does too! Her darling personality shines through in all the pictures of her and ii am sure she won the judges hearts. i had no idea her pageant gene came from her Aunty!! i hope she learns all you did at pageants and maybe a college scholarship too!! you are so amazing Amy!!!
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  5. Amy of while wearing heels

    What a beautiful letter. I had NO idea that you were a pageant girl. What I do know is that you are both beautiful inside and out, full of personality, warm, welcoming, engaging and funny…if you attribute who you are, in part to being a pageant girl, we should all be pageant girls. Congratulations to your sweet niece.
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  6. Mel

    oh she is beautiful. Can I say I always thought they were a little insane so it is really interesting to hear you say how it helped you. You’ve actually shed a new light on them for me. Yay Sophie you are a darling heart.
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